What to Expect When Your College Kid Comes Home for the Holidays
The holidays are here, and if you’ve got a college student heading home for their first winter break then you’re probably feeling all kinds of things—excited, a little nervous, and maybe wondering, “What’s it going to be like having them back under my roof?” Spoiler alert: it’s going to be great… and maybe a little chaotic.
Here’s the lowdown on what to expect when your college kid comes home for the holidays—and how to survive (and enjoy) it!
1. They’re Not Exactly the Same Person Who Left
College changes people—it’s supposed to. Your kid might come home with new ideas, habits, or opinions that surprise you. They’ve been living on their own, making decisions (like eating cereal for dinner), and trying to navigate adult life. Don’t worry; it’s still your kid—just a slightly upgraded …. 2.0 version
What to do: Ask them about their college experience! A little curiosity goes a long way. Plus, it’s fun to hear what shenanigans they’ve been up to.
2. They’re Going to Sleep—a Lot
Don’t be shocked if your college student rolls out of bed at noon. College life is exhausting—finals, studying until 3 a.m., and balancing classes with everything else takes its toll. Home is their chance to crash and catch up on sleep.
What to do: Let them rest! If you want quality time, plan chill activities like baking cookies or watching movies…be prepared to hear a “No, not interested”
3. They’re on “College Time
”Your kid has been on their own schedule for months, so you might notice some weird habits—like staying up until 2 a.m. or randomly raiding the fridge at midnight. They’re used to doing their own thing, and they’re probably not thinking about how it affects the rest of the house.
What to do: Set a few ground rules for family meals, chores, and plans so everyone’s on the same page. A little structure never hurts plus sets a good example for younger siblings.
4. Get Ready for the Laundry Explosion
Oh yes, the laundry. Don’t be surprised if they show up with an entire semester’s worth of dirty clothes. It’s practically a rite of passage for college students to bring their laundry home. Cherish it…you’ll miss it when it stops coming.
What to do: If you’re not up for playing “Laundry Fairy,” let them know the washer and dryer are all theirs and completely free.
5. They’re Starving for Home-Cooked Food
Dining hall food gets old fast, so your college kid is probably dreaming of your cooking. They’ll have requests for their favorite meals, snacks, and maybe even a second helping of that home-baked lasagna. Cook at least two extra helpings for dinner No. 2 at 12 midnight and dinner No. 3 at 2am if you have boys.
What to do: If you’re cooking, get them involved! It’s a great way to spend time together, and they’ll appreciate the effort even more.
6. Expect All the Emotions
Coming home after being away can feel weird—for them and you. Your college student might want to catch up with friends, spend time at old high school hangouts and just decompress after a stressful semester. They may also feel a little torn between their “new life” at school and their old life back home.
What to do: Be flexible. Let them hang out with friends, but also make time for family traditions. Balance is key!
7. Soak It All In
At the end of the day, having your college student home is pretty special. The late-night chats, the family dinners, the simple moments of just having them there—those are the memories that matter most. Sure, it might be a little messy and a little loud, but that’s what the holidays are all about.
Final Thoughts
Having your college kid home for the holidays can be a mix of fun, frustration, and laughter. Give them space to be themselves while still enjoying the little moments together. Before you know it, they’ll be packing up and heading back to campus, so cherish the time you’ve got!
Your Turn: How do you get ready for your college kid’s return? Do they bring ALL the laundry too? Share your stories and tips in the Dorm Life on a Budget Facebook group and let’s get through this holiday season together.
